I remember the first time I met my friend’s daughter. She’s 18 months old, they came to my apartment. I was excited to see her but not her she cried her eyes out..screaming and yelling at her father. She only wanted to get the heck out of here, so we tried every trick in the book to calm her down. My last effort to calm her was actually bribing her with candy, and it worked finally. She started playing around and we put on one of her favorite songs and started dancing, that was a good sign for me. She was moving all over the place like a boss.
I realized that as a child, if you are out of your comfort zone and in front of new people or strangers how would you express your feelings? Definitely you’ll cry and cry like a river, they don’t how to say it so they cry its their way to express feelings. It happens to adults too, but without the crying part or maybe sometimes.
I can remember when I had the opportunity to go to Oklahoma City for a training program, and that was my first trip alone. My first trip without family or friends, it was the trip of my life. I was so excited and thrilled, finally I’m free I can do whatever whenever I want. So first day of training came and the first words came out of our teacher’s mouth was: “all of you are happy and excited to be here, moving from your city or country? Wait till 3 months pass and will ask you the same question. Now you are in a shock about the new stuff, then after a while comes the cultural shock. Then comes the home sick, where you feel lonely and desperate.. that’s normal don’t worry everything will be just fine”. Didn’t believe him at the beginning, then the months he mentioned arrived. I won’t lie to you I panicked, I was in a mess.. no more comfort zone it’s me and only me. Thank god that didn’t last for long, friends and class mates helped a lot.
So whenever that happens to you, just remember that with friends and time everything will be just fine..