Talking about arranged marriages in India, it is weird how Indian parents who tell their daughters not to be talking to strangers suddenly want them to spend their life with one. I’ve been talking to a few people here and they seem to be completely in awe when I tell them that I’ve had an arranged marriage. So I thought I’ll make use of this opportunity and elaborate a bit on that.
Arranged marriage isn’t as bad as it sounds, it is a lot more fun actually. Especially when you come from a country like India where it is not socially acceptable for a guy and girl to go out on a date, it is a refreshing change to see your parents set up a date for you with a handful of eligible guys. Yea, you heard it right. You actually get to go out with as many guys as long as you don’t find the one.
Well traditionally this wasn’t the case and the girl and the guy would practically meet each other on the day of their wedding, but that has drastically changed over time. Now you get the opportunity to meet the guy, go out, get to know each other and then decide if he is the one. And here lies the problem. You just get to meet the guy once or twice before you take the call.
So how do you now that he is the one you want to spend your life with.. He’s the one for you? I thought I could never figure that out. I went around asking people who’d an arranged marriage and everyone had the same thing to say.. You just know it when you meet the right person. And no matter how weird it sounds, that is exactly how it works.
The first time I met him, I knew that this is it. One meeting and I knew that he is the one I wanted to marry. It may be hard to believe but we just met twice before we got engaged, a month after we first met. I still don’t have an answer as to how do we get to know, but now I do believe that you just know. The first look, the connection, the vibes you share, the comfort you feel.. I really don’t know. But when you meet the right person, you just know that THIS IS IT!